We Talked About Diapers — and Somehow Fell in Love Again
(Mom & Dad Corner – keeping the “us” in parenthood.)
It was 8:47PM.
The baby was finally asleep.
There were toys under the couch,
bottles in the sink,
and laundry on literally every chair.
We sat on the floor — too tired to move to the couch —
splitting the last half of a chocolate bar
and arguing about which diaper brand was really the best.
He said one.
I said another.
Neither of us really cared that much.
But we talked like it mattered.
And then we laughed.
And somehow —
for the first time in weeks —
I saw him again.
Not just as her dad.
But as my person.
No one tells you this:
In the early days, marriage feels like a shift-change.
Tag, you’re it.
You sleep, I feed.
You rock, I fold.
Everything is about the baby — and that’s beautiful.
But also… it’s hard.
I missed us.
I missed the version of us
that wasn’t always covered in baby food
or whisper-fighting about who forgot to buy wipes.
So we started doing this small thing:
A nightly tea.
Just fifteen minutes. No phones. No “should we wash the pump parts now?”
Sometimes we talk.
Sometimes we just sit.
But we’re side by side,
like we were before we became three.
We also built a small “us corner” in the house:
A tray with two mugs, his-and-hers
A warm light that feels cozy, even when the rest of the room is chaos
A little notepad where we write silly notes to each other — or sometimes just “I see you.”
That corner isn’t fancy.
But it reminds me that we still choose each other,
even when everything else feels out of control.
Couples Nighttime Tea Set
We don’t always finish the tea, but pouring it has become a ritual. A moment that’s just for us, even when we’re tired.
Soft Glow Table Lamp
There’s something about soft light at the end of a hard day. It makes a 9PM heart-to-heart feel less like survival and more like connection.
Couples Connection Journal
We don’t use it daily. But when we do, it’s grounding. It helps us remember who we are with each other, not just as parents.
Being mom and dad is sacred.
But being us?
That’s the root of it all.
And it deserves its own space —
even if it’s just a quiet corner
and a shared chocolate bar on the floor.